'Marking Dates and Days' - Weekly Reflection 19th April 2026

We always knew this day would come!

Today at St Oswald’s we said farewell to our Vicars, Alan and Jane Hulme who have been with us for just over six years. They now move into a well-earned retirement. *

The transformation of St Oswald’s over that period is amazing. They both felt a deep call of God to come to Rugby for a ‘period’ and bring healing and wholeness into St Oswald’s. For all sorts of reasons, the congregation at St Oswald’s needed deep healing and bringing back into life and love, not least a love for one another. The building itself was also in need of ‘healing.’  Over the last six plus years they have led us on a journey of transformation.  (Interrupted by Covid!)  One of their first tasks was to call the Church to repentance. We spent Lent in prayer and fasting with Alan and Jane making themselves available to hear any stories of hurt, anger or anguish. A Service of Reconciliation was held, and we moved into Easter with a firm grip and understanding that the past has been recognised, we have sought forgiveness and now it is time to move on and build for the future. Having dealt with the past, they then began to help us build a life of prayer, discipleship, fellowship and outward facing ministries. Always asking the question of anything done, why are we doing this and how does this connect to the life of Faith and helping people encounter God or to grow as a disciple of God. Nothing was, or is done ‘just because we have always…’  Things are tried, some work and grow, others don’t and are stopped or tweaked.  

They concluded their time with us this morning by giving us ‘Ten Top Tips for a Vacancy.’ One of which was to remember the past, but don’t stay there. To try and ban the phrase, ‘When Alan and Jane where here they did it like this,’ hence it becomes something written according to the Law of the Medes and Persians!  (See Daniel 6:8)

Apart from reflecting back on the time Alan and Jane have been at St Oswal’s, which coincidently has largely mirrored our own time here, we both arrived at much the same time, I have been reflecting on dates and time. 

A well-known phrase from Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 comes to mind, ‘There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:’

Popularised for those old enough to remember by "Turn! Turn! Turn!", also known as "To Everything There Is a Season", a song written by Pete Seeger in 1959.  It became an international hit in late 1965 sung by the American folk rock group the Byrds. 

 (The song was originally released in 1962 as "To Everything There Is a Season" by the folk group the Limeliters.')

Those dates in our diary, for good or ill, for pain or for pleasure, they come, they present themselves, and then they pass, but always leaving some trace, as any reader or watcher of detective stories know.  

'Time, like an ever-rolling stream,

   Bears all its sons away;

They fly forgotten, as a dream

   Dies at the opening day.'

Last week I reflected on a little of my own journey of coming to embrace the Christian Faith. As I entered my teens I knew that no matter what I did, or where I went, or however rich or poor I might become, that one day, my name would be written on a little brass plaque on a coffin lid. Name, date of birth date of death.

This was one of the most abiding memories of my dad in his coffin. Shortly after my six birthday he was killed in road traffic accident at the age of 36. Following the custom of the time he was laid to rest in the front room of our council house. The coffin was left open and the lid propped up against the wall. That little brass plaque became a deep-seated memory that would come back to haunt me as I grew into my adolescent years.

That date will come, that birthday, that wedding date, that anniversary, that holiday. That dentist appointment or that operation or scan.  For good or ill these dates and days will come and go and leave their mark.

However, unlike the Law of the Medes and Persians, what kind of mark is left is not ‘set in stone’ (to mix metaphors). We, to a greater or lesser degree, can make choices.

Another of the ‘Top Tips’ spoken of today was to regularly read the Bible. In retirement I have come to appreciate the Scriptures and their depth of wisdom in a whole new way, largely through podcasts, especially from the Bible Project and Tom Wright but from other sources as well.

'Take a deep dive into the wisdom of Scripture.' 

That wisdom gained from reading Scripture can help us make good choices. For example, one of the overriding motifs of Scripture is that of flourishing. Both my own flourishing and the flourishing of the ‘other.’  Therefore, that is a question to ask, will what I am about to say or do (or not do!) bring flourishing? If you have time listen to this podcast of an amazing Christian entrepreneur who, informed by Scriptures, especially Jesus’ parables, has set up several companies that seeks the flourishing of everyone involved in the business at whatever level. https://open.spotify.com/episode/60ehAlo9ZzeuGTyBx5geN9?si=c1503b3329fc4265

As we experience the ebb and flow of life we might make this our prayer; ‘Our God, our help in ages past, Our hope for years to come, Be thou our guard while troubles last, And our eternal home.

https://youtu.be/N-hN740J6qA?si=vXEt4yVU8qVrNnOp

* Watch the Service on YouTube - 

https://www.youtube.com/live/Npx5aquvVFU?si=UcWTJkgcpGq8KYyT